You Can Do It

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It’s the ATTITUDE of GRATITUDE!!
For me gratitude has developed over time, and over time I have observed that my attitude of gratitude has develop a life of its own. A life that I choose to visit on a regular   basis.

The “Gratitude Principles”

1. Gratitude is awareness that, as things come to you, they are exactly what you need – be it people, circumstance, or challenges.
2. Worry is the opposite of gratitude; it is the failure to understand that you have been and will continue to be provided for each day.
3. Whenever fear over your future encroaches, stop to observe a tree. Consider how the tree continues to stand tall and grow throughout the various cycles and seasons of its life span.
4. Worry is an action. Gratitude is an action. Both are optional. By choosing gratitude you drive out the space and time for worry.
5. It isn’t hard to do; gratitude is simply noticing the good stuff in your life.
6. What you pay attention to, or notice, tends to expand and grow.
7. Each day brings a multitude of opportunities to feel gratitude and appreciation.
8. When you neglect the action of appreciating, you limit your potential for joy and contentment in the present moment.
9. Worry does not prevent bad things from happening; it only prevents you from accessing joy in this moment.
10. The present moment is the only place where joy and contentment can exist. Attitudes of Gratitude

Have a fantastic start to a wonderful week – One Day At A Time!!

Quote of the Day – Commitment

“The quality of a person’s life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavor.”
Vince Lombardi

As I have alluded to in some of my past posts, all the GOOD in my life is in direct proportion to the activity I have been taught to ‘do’ in AA.  To me that means that my life is good so long as I am following the principles in AA and living my life as outlined to me from the members of AA that went before me. They taught me to do what they did and make AA a part of my life until it was my life. Well, because I was so sick and tired of being sick and tired, I did that. And my life today, in spite of the occasional blah days, my life is full and I feel I have purpose in my life.

I was given a plan of action…my life became more than just words…it became and continues to be a commitment on a daily basis. I also learned that by making a commitment it meant that I would be carrying “it” through, from start to finish.  So, before I say YES to anything, I make sure I have the time and desire to really follow through. I have said NO to many things because I am not afraid to any more, but more than that, if it isn’t something I don’t want to or can’t do then I no longer say yes just to be a People Pleaser.

I will go to any length to stay clean and sober. It was overwhelming to make a lifelong commitment to sobriety, so I followed “One Day at a Time.” Using this day-by-day pace, I was able to string together time and a new life. I afraid, as I was of EVERYTHING, of making a long-term commitment, but I knew I had to. It was a difficult place to be, seemingly stuck between two tremendous fears; fear of going back to using and facing certain catastrophe, and the fear of failure.  So, I decided to take a chance on the risk of recovery because at least I knew my odds of succeeding and living a worthwhile life were better than if I went back to using. How? By the POWER OF EXAMPLES right in front of me. These AA members had made a commitment to get WELL and it was working for them. No matter what was going on in their lives, they did not pick up a drink and the seemed to be happy most times with smiles on their faces. I WANTED THAT!!

In my experience, it is my continual commitment on a daily basis that provides the true and enduring path to happiness, joy and serenity!

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WE JUST TRY

AUGUST 21

My stability came out of trying to give, not out of demanding that I receive.                   THE BEST OF BILL, pp. 46-47

As long as I try, with all my heart and soul, to pass along to others what has been passed along to me, and do not demand anything in return, life is good to me. Before entering this program of Alcoholics Anonymous I was never able to give without demanding something in return. Little did I know that, once I began to give freely of myself, I would begin to receive, without ever expecting or demanding anything at all. What I receive today is the gift of “stability,” as Bill did: stability in my A.A. program; within myself; but most of all, in my relationship with my Higher Power, whom I choose to call God.

Alcoholics Anonymous World Service Inc.. Daily Reflections: A Book of Reflections by A.A. Members for A.A. Members (Kindle Location 1710). A.A. World Services, Inc.. Kindle Edition.

I have learned that giving is better than receiving…it wasn’t the change that was painful, it was the resistance to change that was painful.  I was so comfortable where I was. I fought every step of the way. Most changes, probably all the changes I had to make I had to “go against the grain” doing things I wasn’t normally used to doing. Luckily having done this for a while now, I am able to change and continue to change. For me, pain is a motivator. I was given stability and balance and above all my new (but old) relationship with God.

24 Hours A Day

A.A. Thought for the Day

“Who are you to say there is no God? This challenge comes to all of us. Are we capable of denying that there is a design and purpose in all of life as we know it? Or are we willing to admit that faith in some kind of Divine Principle is a part of our make-up, just as much as the feeling we have for a friend? We find a great Reality deep down within us, if we face ourselves as we really are. In the last analysis, it is only there that God may be found. When we find this Reality within us, we are restored to our right minds.” Have I found the great Reality?

Meditation for the Day

“Behold, I make all things new.” When you change to a new way of life, you leave many things behind you. It is only the earth-bound spirit that cannot soar. Loosen somewhat the strands that tie you to the earth. It is only the earthly desires that bind you. Your new freedom will depend on your ability to rise above earthly things. Clipped wings can grow again. Broken wings can regain a strength and beauty unknown before. If you will, you can be released and free.

Prayer for the Day

I pray that I may be freed from things that hold me down. I pray that my spirit may soar in freedom.

Anonymous. Twenty-Four Hours A Day (pp. 95-96). Martino Fine Books. Kindle Edition.

My thought… I was told many times in my early recovery, “Who are you to say there is no God?”  God has become my friend. I can go to Him and speak with Him at any time, any place. But was did the “great Reality” mean?  To my relief,  I discovered I did not need to consider anyone else’s conception of God but my own.  I got it, back to my spiritual roots.

My Meditation…this meditation helps me to remember that I have been given my freedom and My Prayer…helps me to reinforce that I will remain free when I pray to help have all those things that bind me removed.

I just keep trying ONE DAY AT A TIME!!

Continuing to Do the Things…

Continuing to do the things I have been doing day in and day out for many years now.

I am writing this tonight because I am going to be out-of-town for the next few days. Going to Pensacola Florida for the All Service Women’s Softball Tournament. What fun it will be, I started going a couple of years ago. Now some of the gals I played with in 1980 and 1981, also go back to cheer the “Rookies” on. GO ARMY!!!!SoftballPic

 

Even though I will be out of town…I will CONTINUE to read my Daily Reflections and my 24 Hour A Day Books. You should too!! Because of these two books and their passages being a part of my daily life, I am able to go and be around my friend and their friends and get this – Strangers in a different place. It is amazing, no, a miracle for someone who was afraid of everyone and everything forever! Until I got and continue to stay well – ONE DAY AT A TIME!!

My blogging will probably be highlighting my days revolving around the games and my emotions…I may or may not reference or write about the Reflections or 24 Hours. But then again, you never know. Have a fantastic week! I’m about to and I owe it ALL to AA and God!

REDOUBLING OUR EFFORTS

AUGUST 10

To a degree, he has already done this when taking moral inventory, but now the time has come when he ought to redouble his efforts to see how many people he has hurt, and in what ways.                                          TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 77

As I continue to grow in sobriety, I become more aware of myself as a person of worth. In the process, I am better able to see others as persons, and with this comes the realization that these were people whom I had hurt in my drinking days. I didn’t just lie, I lied about Tom. I didn’t just cheat, I cheated Joe. What were seemingly impersonal acts, were really personal affronts, because it was people—people of worth—whom I had harmed. I need to do something about the people I have hurt so that I may enjoy a peaceful sobriety.

Alcoholics Anonymous World Service Inc.. Daily Reflections: A Book of Reflections by A.A. Members for A.A. Members (Kindle Locations 1627-1628). A.A. World Services, Inc.. Kindle Edition.

It became time now to redouble my efforts…it was time to take action for the things I did or didn’t do to specific people by recognizing exactly what those wrongs or acts of omissions were. This was now going to require time and effort. I had to strengthen my consciousness, by becoming aware of the exact nature of my past what had occurred and to whom and then I had  exert the power by remaining willing to make these amends when the time came and actually make them. Of course that was the hardest part. I knew what I had done to harm all the people on my list…it was the face to face amends that was scaring me….I wasn’t quite there yet, so as long as I continued to pray and remain willing, I figured by the time that time came, I’d be ready to accomplish this dreadful, frightful act. I also knew that I had to do it otherwise I would not get sober and not be able to enjoy that peaceful sobriety that I been hearing about.

 

24 Hours a Day

A.A. Thought for the Day

“The tremendous fact for every one of us is that we have discovered a common solution. We who have found this solution to our alcoholic problem, who are properly armed with the facts about ourselves, can generally win the entire confidence of another alcoholic. We who are making the approach to a new prospect have had the same difficulty as he has had, we obviously know what we are talking about, our whole deportment shouts at the new prospect that we are men with a real answer.” Am I a person with the real answer to the alcoholic problems of others?

Meditation for the Day

For straying from the right way there is no cure except to keep so close to the thought of God that nothing, no other interest, can seriously come between you and God. Sure of that, you can stay on God’s side. Knowing the way, nothing can prevent your staying in the way and nothing can cause you to seriously stray from it. God has promised peace if you stay close to Him, but not leisure. You still have to carry on in the world. He has promised heart-rest and comfort, but not pleasure in the ordinary sense. Peace and comfort bring real inward happiness.

Prayer for the Day

I pray that I may keep my feet on the way. I pray that I may stay on God’s side.

Anonymous. Twenty-Four Hours A Day (p. 91). Martino Fine Books. Kindle Edition.

My thought…FINALLY, I am not the ONLY one that feels this way. There is a Solution! In Chapter 2 of the Big Book. I found that solution and became willing to give what I found back to others. This in turn kept and still keeps be from drinking and more importantly sober. I was taught from day one that I needed to approach new comers and share my experience, strength and hope. If they want what I had, whether it was one day of not drinking or ten years of sobriety they would have to do what I did. I knew how they felt but they had no idea how I felt. We have the answer for the new comer to not only Stop drinking, but stay Stopped. I am the person with the real answer to the alcoholic problems of others. I am uniquely qualified to help them. With the knowledge too, that I am not able to help them in any other way…with their marriage, money problems, relationships, etc…I will listen, but only help them to not to drink One Day At A Time!
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