. . . and third, having thus cleaned away the debris of the past, we consider how, with our newfound knowledge of ourselves, we may develop the best possible relations with every human being we know. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 77
As I faced the Eighth Step, everything that was required for successful completion of the previous seven Steps came together: courage, honesty, sincerity, willingness and thoroughness, I could not muster the strength required for this task at the beginning, which is why this Step reads “Became willing. . . .” I needed to develop the courage to begin, the honesty to see where I was wrong, a sincere desire to set things right, thoroughness in making a list, and willingness to take the risks required for true humility. With the help of my Higher Power in developing these virtues, I completed this Step and continued to move forward in my quest for spiritual growth.
Alcoholics Anonymous World Service Inc.. Daily Reflections: A Book of Reflections by A.A. Members for A.A. Members (Kindle Locations 1650-1653). A.A. World Services, Inc.. Kindle Edition.
How am I to develop relationships with everyone I know? I am afraid of everyone and everything….but I had learned by this time how to fight the fear and just do it. I was still afraid of picking up a drink. I remain afraid today of the drink more than I am afraid of people, places and things. So through practice, perseverance, people reminding me what to do and the fear of drinking out weighing all other fears I have learned day-to-day how to grow and through experience develop relation with others.
The first seven steps taught me how to relate and have relations with others through courage, honesty, sincerity, and of course willingness. Oh my gosh I was wrong on so many levels, I thought I knew everything, especially when I drank. I didn’t! I became sincere to change and make things right with all I harmed and was very thorough in making a list. I thought if I goofed on that list and left anyone or anything off the list it would not work. I was scared and fear is a fantastic motivator – even on the positive side. Next was humility, I was willing to do whatever it took with the help of my Higher Power to grow and move forward in my search for spiritual growth.
24 HOURS A DAY
A.A. Thought for the Day
“We had but two alternatives, one was to go on to the bitter end, blotting out the consciousness of our intolerable situation as best we could and the other was to accept spiritual help. We became willing to maintain a certain simple attitude toward life. What seemed at first a flimsy reed, has proved to be the loving and powerful hand of God. A new life has been given us, a design for living that really works. Each individual establishes in his own way his personal relationship with God.” Have I established my own relationship with God?
Meditation for the Day
Make it a daily practice to review your character. Take your character in relation to your daily life, to your dear ones, your friends, your acquaintances and your work. Each day try to see where God wants you to change. Plan how best each fault can be eradicated or each mistake be corrected. Never be satisfied with a comparison with those around you. Strive toward a better life as your ultimate goal. God is your helper through weakness to power, through danger to security, through fear and worry to peace and serenity.
Prayer for the Day
I pray that I may make real progress toward a better life. I pray that I may never be satisfied with my present state.
Anonymous. Twenty-Four Hours A Day (p. 92). Martino Fine Books. Kindle Edition.
My Thought… I had to alternatives. One was to not continue forward and the other was to accept spiritual growth. I chose the latter. Even though at the time I was unsure what it was, but closer to believing that this all was going to help me not drink and become happy again. The proof was standing right in front of me….all the people before me. I simplified my life by continuing on in AA with the direction and guidance of the AA fellowship. What I had read in all the AA literature was beginning to sink in. It was working. I had begun to reestablish that personal relationship with God as I understand Him.
My spiritual growth was maturing, and continues to mature so long as I continue to do the things I was taught and continue to trudge the road to a happy destiny. No, it isn’t a drudge any more, it once seemed like it, but no more. I am on the road to wah I was always looking for – Happiness! The road has had its ups and downs; twists and turns, but it has been worth every single minute. God has helped me accomplish all that I could not do myself.
My Prayer… I continue to pray to do the things I have been taught right from the start. They have proven to work. I pray to continue to strengthen my relationship with God and not rest on “my laurels.” I need to keep growing spiritually so that God may continue to help me carry out His will.